Today I was in the kitchen cooking and like so many times before my hubby came in right behind me followed me around and started putting away things and putting things he no longer thought useful  in the trash. He has been doing this for years, it aggravates me and sometimes just makes me plain mad. 

When I cook I move quickly, have a routine and when something is not where I expect it to be it throws me out of my routine and I get frazzled. Sometimes when I start in one direction I may turn around to do something I forgot to do or decide to do something different and when I change directions I literally bump into hubby because he is following right behind me. 

I will be cooking turn to get the spoon to stir something, the spoon is gone, I will go to put something in the trash bowl, bag or whatever I am collecting it in until I am finished cooking and it has disappeared I have reached for many things expecting them to be where I left them only to find they are no longer there. This has happened with pepper, salt, flour, shortening and tons of other things. 

Today for the umpteenth time I talked with him about doing this and told him that I would very much appreciate it if he would wait until time to clean the kitchen to help me with those things and NOT while I am cooking. Then I asked him nicely to please go sit back down and watch his movie or ballgame and leave the kitchen to me until I called him to eat. He quietly and politely obliged, but I betcha when I cook the next time I will reach for something and it will be gone, wanna bet with me?

After hubby went back to watch TV I continued to cook and was thinking about him and all he has done for me and all he has been to me over the years. My hubby is a very special man, he has been faithful to me, worked hard to support me and the children, he has been helpful, loved me and treated me with respect for almost 40 years now. He has fed babies, rocked them, given them their medication, changed their diapers and clothes and stayed with all the children if we had 3 or 10 a whole lot of times over the years when I had to go some place . We were parents to 117 foster children and without my hubby I could not have done what I did. You don't find a whole lot of men out there that will do all that. 

So you know what...today I said to myself...I am so blessed to have such  a wonderful man to share my life with and what I love and appreciate about him far out weighs what minimal little things he does that aggravate me. My goodness just putting up with me for all these years way out weighs his little irritating things so from now on when he comes to the kitchen and starts doing his collecting and cleaning I will do my best to not get upset with him, but remember all those wonderful things he does and just gently nudge him back to the TV and tell him I will call him when his food is ready.